I never look forward to the car ride to the airport. Twenty-five minutes of holding back the tears, of the anxious hand holding because we know it is only temporary. My heart sinks a little with every minute that passes—I don’t want to say goodbye.
Long distance relationships are taxing—emotionally, financially, mentally. Dani and I have been so lucky that our long distance bursts have always been short (i.e. months rather than years) but it still is challenging nonetheless. Honestly, to all my LDR friends/readers out there, kudos to you guys. I know how hard it is and how hard it can be.
We’ve celebrated half of our anniversaries apart, shared big milestones over FaceTime, been separated by multiple time zones without cell service for months at a time, spent our savings to see each other and changed our sleeping schedules to maximize the waking hours we share to ease communication. It isn’t easy, but it is so worth it and I am so grateful that we have the resources to see each other as often as we do.
While this isn’t our first experience with long distance, this time has felt different. For the first time in our relationship and after almost four years, we are officially going to be living in the same city and not only that but IN THE SAME APARTMENT! Yes, it is official—we are moving in together! I think having this LDR end date (sometime mid-June) makes it all seem so much more real. We only have two months left apart—we can see the light at the end of the tunnel and we are so excited.
This post isn’t really to tell you how to survive long distance but more to just share what is on my heart (I wrote this on the plane ride from San Francisco to Boston after seeing Dani). However, I do want to share some of the resources/blog posts that I found super helpful through this process (along with one I wrote!).
- Although I wrote this post almost two years ago, (told you we’ve been at this long distance thing for a while!) my advice still stands!
- Sara, one of my closest friends & favorite bloggers, wrote this beautiful post about her five-year long distance relationship! Fun fact, they are engaged to be married now AND I’m their wedding photographer!!!! EEEE!!!!
- Chelsea wrote this great post about common misconceptions about LDR (because trust me, there are a lot!) And some exciting news…they just got married!
If you are in a LDR, I empathize with you and I support you.