Tell me five years ago that I would be attending an all women’s college and I would have probably laughed. I had nothing against women’s colleges but it just wasn’t what I had in mind when I thought of the “typical college experience” that I wanted.
Now, two years into college, I couldn’t be more grateful that I chose Wellesley.
I think it is important to highlight exactly why I love my women’s college experience because often times, when I tell people that I go to a women’s college they respond with a puzzled look or concern in their eyes like “why would anyone ever do that?” or “those still exist?”.
But, what is even more frustrating to me than the weird questions I get asked about women’s colleges are the “benefits” that many people think exist at women’s colleges.
“Benefit” #1: You don’t have to wear makeup or ‘dress to impress’.
- Honestly, I get this one so often. I see plenty of people at Wellesley who dress in sweats everyday and plenty of people who dress up. Wearing makeup and dressing to impress shouldn’t be actions you ever do for other people. It is a personal decision that really shouldn’t be influenced by the majority gender around you.
“Benefit” #2: There is way less drama.
- If you are only referring to drama between men and women, sure. There is probably less. But, just like everywhere, gossiping happens. There is drama. There are breakups and hookups. Drama exists everywhere.
“Benefit” #3: You learn how to be confident.
- Wellesley has certainly made me into a more confident person but that is because of the personal growth I have had at Wellesley and the supportive and engaging atmosphere it provides. Being around mostly women is not the reason I am more confident.
“Benefit” #4: It is easier.
- I have literally had people tell me that it must be nice to attend Wellesley because it is less competitive than a co-ed college. Trust me, these two years have been the most challenging of my life. Going to Wellesley, or any women’s college, is not the ‘easy way out’.
Wellesley has shaped me into the person I am today. It has given me new insight on how I view the world around me. During my time at Wellesley, I have cried, screamed, laughed, failed, succeeded and achieved. I am so grateful I still have two more years to experience the women’s college I am so lucky to attend.